August 24, 2011
What a treasure preserved for us all! Every chapter is a gem of thought on some of the most basic precepts and approaches to raising a child. This book is essential for Mothers, Fathers, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Teachers of schools and churches, and pretty much anyone who has any authority or influence over younger persons. And it's never too late to read this manual and make new strides in our relationships with children or young adults that we may have been struggling in.
The writer was a christian and an experienced father and school administrator and speaks with surety and conviction. The language is from a past era but is still highly accessible and has a charm.
His approach is from a loving and sympathetic heart with goals to identify with a child, to gain his trust, to supply his needs, to train him from harm, to discipline him in love against self harm and poor habits, and to hold a trusted confidence with him.
For my part, where I have succeeded as a parent, it's obvious I have been applying some of these concepts. Where I have come up short, better ways I can see more clearly from reading here. I can follow Trumbull's train of thought back to scripture and sound reasoning and to my own memories of my childhood.
Parenting doesn't come perfectly naturally to all of us, and today there is more method and training advice than ever while at the same time there are bigger and bigger divides between parents and children. We are so concerned about advice for or against spanking or for or against letting a child have their way. But there is no good in living by extremes of methodology when we primarily need loving goals in mind and the understanding of carefully applied wisdom to every moment our children present to us in their growing up. Let's not lose sound wisdom. This is a book to hang on to, to read as early as possible and to begin to apply today.
Depending on where you are coming from, you may not agree with every item in Trumbull's book, but if any part we find helpful at all is amended to our parenting we will be much better off.